Of course people should set goals/have dreams etc. I'm talking about having an idea in your head about how any given event should go. When Everly was first born, I used to set expectations for outings, Doc appointments, even day to day activities. I thought I'd be strolling along tree shaded sidewalks with an iced coffee in hand and my best friends by my side, stopping occasionally to snap pics of my adorable newborn. It didn't look like that...at all. And it still doesn't. Because best friends without babies continue with their pre-baby lives (as they should) and you end up home with no pants or make up on crying about your cracked nipples. And when you have to leave a restaurant 5 minutes after your food arrives because you cannot pacify your screaming infant.
We struggled to accept this new mindset at first and had many miserable outings because of it. Fast forward to the 6 month mark and it's just now getting easier. We don't expect ANYTHING these days. We go places knowing we might pack up and leave the moment we arrive. We do our best to anticipate potential issues and we go with the flow. THAT is how you live your best life as a new parent. But that's just the two cents of a very type B person.
Last week was a huge milestone for us as a family- first family vacation! To San Diego to be more specific. As you probably guessed we had zero expectations for this trip and the purpose was really to visit my newborn niece. We left around E's bedtime (HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS METHOD OF TRAVEL W/ LITTLE ONES) and arrived incredibly sleepy but only having stopped once or twice. We saw a cute farmers market, a very large aquarium who's name I won't mention so people don't think I'm an awful person, and Everly enjoyed putting her little toes in the Pacific Ocean.
I got lots of baby snuggles and EJ was fascinated by her 2 year old cousin, Wes, who she didn't really seem to notice before now. It's an INCREDIBLE feeling having children at the same time as your siblings. So fulfilling!
Anyway, we're home now, and back to normal life. E had her six month check up today, but I'll highlight that later!
Thanks for listening. Any other tips you'd share with a first time parent? I can use all the help I can get :)